Oh man, I don’t know about you but sometimes I am physically present with my family but not mentally engaged and I HATE THAT! I am constantly working on trying to get better in that area of my life, and I’ll be real with you, it’s a tough one for me. There are so many things that I want to get done, so many things on my “to-do” list, so many dreams I want to chase down, so many new ideas that I want to explore NOW, that it’s hard for me to take myself away from all that. I’ve found however, that I am NOT HAPPY unless I am able to tell the “work” Erin to CHILL OUT! Oofta! My priorities go like this 1. Jesus 2. Family 3. My purpose/calling in life – and if they are out of order, it is not cool. I’ve figured out that if my 1st priority is in good standing, that the rest just fall right into their place 🙂 Have you ever read the poem that says…
“The cleaning and scrubbing will wait till tomorrow,
For children grow up, as I’ve learned to my sorrow.
So quiet down, cobwebs. Dust go to sleep.
I’m rocking my baby and babies don’t keep.”
My mom used to say that to us all the time, and even though I don’t have *human* children yet, I’ve found that saying to be so helpful for me. It reminds me that all of the STUFF, TASKS, and CRAP that I worry myself with will STILL BE THERE! However, the moments with my loved ones may not be. I’ve gotten so annoyed with my hubs at times over the smallest of things, like the bed wasn’t made or there were dishes in the sink and people were coming over. Oh my gosh! What a HORRIBLE thing it would be if our friends and family found out that we actually slept in our bed and cooked food at our house?! Ha! Sounds crazy when you break it down like that huh? My friend Rachel used to say to me “dude, you LIVE here” in an attempt to get me to realize how unimportant having a sparkly clean house was. I’m happy to say that I have been able to let go of that! Now I can just light a few candles, fluff the pillows, and call it good. Ok, ok… I may or may not send out a text as well saying “my house is not sparkly, I live here, enter at your own risk” 😉 Baby steps.
All of us have those little things in our lives that we make such a big deal and want to control, but ultimately end up sacrificing closeness in relationships over, or sacrificing quality of life over. Those little things can really hold us back in life and keep us from experiencing true joy. So, what is that “little thing” for you and how can you work at letting it go?